How much masturbation is too much?
Masturbation is something that people often joke about or talk openly about when it comes to boys, and it’s seen as really normal. But for girls, it can feel like something we’re not supposed to talk about, or even something to feel embarrassed about. That double standard isn’t fair. The truth is, from a biological and developmental point of view, it’s completely normal for everyone, regardless of gender, to be curious about their body and experience sexual feelings as they grow up.
For a long time, girls have been made to feel like they should stay “pure,” and that exploring their own body is somehow wrong. But that’s based on outdated gender expectations, not reality. Girls have the same natural curiosity and feelings as boys do, and learning about your own body is a normal part of growing up. It doesn’t make you weird, wrong, or any less worthy of respect.
Many girls masturbate out of curiosity, to relax, or simply because it feels nice. It doesn’t harm your body, and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. It’s a personal and private choice. The only time it might become a concern is if it starts to interfere with things like your sleep, schoolwork, relationships or overall wellbeing.
Like anything that feels good, balance is important. If it becomes something you feel like you have to do all the time, or something that affects how you connect with others emotionally, it might be helpful to pause and reflect on why.
If you ever feel like you’re struggling with self-control or feel worried about your habits, it’s important to know that you’re not alone, and there is nothing to be ashamed of. You can listen to a podcast, talk to someone you trust, like a friend, counsellor, or another supportive person in your life. Everyone’s journey with understanding their body is different, and it’s okay to take the time to figure things out in a way that feels healthy and right for you.Most importantly, be kind to yourself. Growing up involves learning, questioning, and understanding who you are - and that’s completely normal. Arohanui, 💛💙