Hi Mama Ruru, I got flowers from someone for Valentine's day but I don’t like them and don’t know how to reject them. What do I do? Thank you

Hey 💛

First of all, it’s okay to feel awkward about this. Getting flowers from someone you don’t like back can feel flattering and uncomfortable at the same time. That doesn’t make you mean - it just makes you honest.

The kindest thing you can do is be clear, but gentle. You don’t have to over-explain or apologise for not having feelings. You could say something like, “Thank you for the flowers, that was really thoughtful. I just want to be honest that I don’t see this as anything more than friends.” Short, calm, and respectful.

Try not to ignore it or hope it goes away - that can sometimes make things more confusing for them. Being clear now might feel uncomfortable for five minutes, but it saves both of you from bigger hurt later.

You’re allowed to choose who you like. Being kind and being honest can happen at the same time. 🌷