I feel like I’m being a bad friend. There’s a girl I’m friends with who keeps sending me TikToks about feeling left out, whenever I talk to her, she brushes me off . I don’t know what to do

It honestly sounds like you’re trying to be a really caring friend, even if it doesn’t feel like that right now. 

From what you’ve said, it seems like she’s kind of reaching out in an indirect way through TikToks, but when you try to properly check in with her, she doesn’t really open up or engage. That can feel really confusing and honestly a bit one-sided, especially when you’re actually making an effort to be there for her. 

But you’re not a bad friend for not knowing how to handle it. Sometimes friendship just gets tricky like that, especially when one person is hinting at how they feel but not really talking about it directly. It sounds like you are doing your part by trying to create space for her and checking in. 

If you wanted a gentle way to respond, you could say something like: 

“Hey, I’ve noticed you’ve sent a few TikToks about feeling left out. I really care about you and I’m here if you ever want to talk properly. I just sometimes find it hard to know how to support you when we don’t really talk about it directly.” 

It’s kind, honest, and still respects both of you without putting pressure on her. 

And if she still doesn’t really respond or pulls away, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed as a friend — it might just mean she’s not in a place where she can talk about it yet. You can still care about her, but it’s also okay to not carry all of that emotional weight by yourself xx